Who are you? Why are you here?
What is your purpose?
What do you desire for your life?
These are the some of the questions we all struggle with at the core of our being.
For the last decade of my life, I have been on a journey in search of a deeper understanding of myself and my purpose, seeking and desiring to know and experience the depths of these longings in a very visceral way. I have not necessarily desired more knowledge but a deeper truth that is accessible and tangible in my human experience.
When the student is ready, the teacher will come.
I was initially introduced to the Enneagram through couples counseling in 2008. My husband and I were in a difficult and challenging space in our marriage, both individually and relationally. The enneagram gave me a new language and profound insight into our relationship as a couple but also provided a new depth of awareness into my own inner journey. The Enneagram has been one of the greatest gifts and tools in my life that has helped transform me into my truest self.
I am a full time Registered Nurse, and a Riso-Hudson Certified Enneagram Teacher through the Enneagram Institute. I am also a professional member of the International Enneagram Association. I have been working since 2012 as an Enneagram coach with individuals one on one and assisting couples/partners in their relational strengths and challenges using the Enneagram as a guide. I currently teach both Introductory Enneagram courses as well as Going Deeper with the Enneagram workshops for Well for the Journey and The Meadow. I lead Enneagram workshops for schools, businesses, ministries, non profits and Board of Directors. I also lead Enneagram guided retreats for small groups, churches and businesses.
The enneagram has been one of my great teachers, mentors, and companions as I have been on this amazing journey of self transformation. It has given me the tools and guidance that I have desperately sought and longed for as I have wrestled with the deep paradoxes and seemingly contradictory experiences of my life. My greatest joy and passion in life is to come alongside those who are seeking to grow deeper in their self understanding and awareness.
The way out is the way through and the Enneagram is a wonderful tool that offers a beautiful roadmap as you journey to your true self.
What is the Enneagram?
The enneagram is a typology; a powerful and dynamic personality system that describes nine distinct and fundamentally different patterns of thinking, feeling and acting. It's a geometric figure that delineates the basic personality types of human nature and their complex inter-relationship, which helps us understand our true nature as opposed to the false self of personality.
Why doesn't my partner understand me? Why can't we get along? Why do I always seem to want more from my partner? How can we share more intimacy? Why am I so emotionally inhibited? What tears us apart? What brings us closer together? How do I really experience love? Why do my partner and I express our love so differently?
Our enneagram type is characterized by a number of traits that dominate the individual’s overall personality. This model also identifies each types' greatest fears as well as the coping mechanisms that people use to deal with those anxieties. In relationship, the rub comes when we are each navigating our fears and desires from two very different perspectives and fundamental needs. Becoming aware of those differences through the tool of the Enneagram provides a roadmap to how our inner forces affect our outer realities.
Doors of Enneagram
When Two partner together and become One- our individual identity merges with that of another. Who I am in me affects Who I am with you. There are beautiful spaces where a cord of two is stronger than the thread of one. The Enneagram is a wonderful guide into bringing transformation into the consolations and desolations of relationship. The consolations are how we as a couple are stronger together because of our combined energies and complimentary gifts. The desolations are how we end up wounding and hurting each other as a result of our fixations, patterns and failed strategies that can be our most destructive forces.
We can’t begin to understand another until we understand ourselves. The greatest gift I have to offer another is the gift of living out of my True Self. The Enneagram is a guide to inner awakening and wholeness that leads to greater self love, self compassion, and self care. Once that is being initiated in “me," I no longer demand it from "you."
Part of our Human Experience is we suffer independently and together relationally. Living in Harmony brings healing not only to ourselves and our interdependent relationships, but to the Universe as a whole. The Wisdom of the Enneagram states: "the last thing humans are willing to let go of is their suffering…. Why… first, our suffering is familiar and second, much of our identity comes from holding on to our suffering and if it disappeared, who would we be? The degree to which we release our attachments and their attendant suffering, is the degree to which we free our capacity for joy and for life itself.” Awareness of our shared human condition is the first step on the path to being fully liberated to live a life of ultimate freedom and fulfillment.